“And we urge you, brothers, admonish the idle, encourage the fainthearted, help the weak, and be patient with them all.” (1 Thes. 5:14)
This is one of those verses that should be memorized. There have been times I have gotten frustrated with people in ministry only to find out that there is something deeper going on in their lives. Perhaps they’ve had a death in their family, or maybe they’re going through a tough time. When you’re confronting someone about something, it’s always best to be a “good doctor” first and evaluate what’s really going on by asking them the question: “How are you doing?”
By asking that question, you can determine which of the three conditions in the passage above exist for them. They are:
1) Idle: The original Greek word for this means “undisciplined” or “insubordinate”. This could either mean the person is irresponsible or one who has a hard time with authority. Either way, the Bible is clear that when any believer is idle, as brothers and sisters in Christ, we must confront them in a loving way. We should love them for who they are but also too much to let them stay the same.
2) Fainthearted: This is the person who is going through a tough time. As I mentioned before, I’ve gotten frustrated with people thinking they were being lazy only to find out they were going through a difficult trial. When we find out someone is going through a tough time (such as a death in the family or depression), we must be there for them and encourage them.
3) Weak: This is a younger believer who may not have strong convictions. There are times we must be patient and just help people to grow. An example of this happened to me two days ago. I’m leading a big summer mission trip that’s ten weeks long for 58 college students, and the mission project is pretty expensive (since it’s the entire summer). The mission project starts in two weeks, and two days ago a young lady called me and said she had decided not to go. Now, I’ll admit I was tempted to get angry with her because she would be losing the project hundreds of dollars ($3,000 to be more accurate) if she backed out. However, recognizing she is a young believer, I simply asked to re-consider. I also gave her Jesus’ instruction in Matthew 5:37 to “let your ‘yes’ be ‘yes’ and your ‘no’ be ‘no’” and explained to her how it would hurt the project financially if she backed out of her commitment. She prayed about it for a day and then decided to honor her commitment and take part in the summer mission project.
Can you think of good examples of when you have or haven’t been “a good doctor” by diagnosing a situation before reacting to it? I can think of so many times I’ve reacted poorly to someone, but these instructions in 1 Thes. 5 have helped me to react to people in a Biblical way and have saved me a lot of heartache.
Spend some time thanking God for his Word and, most importantly, for dying on the cross for the mistakes we’ve made. Confess any sin that the Holy Spirit reveals in your life, and surrender your whole heart to Christ today. Ask God to help you to “be a good doctor” and diagnose where people are and what their situation is before reacting to them too quickly and causing pain. Only God knows everything going on, and only he can change the heart of a man or a woman. Praise him for never giving up on us!